Posted on: April 22nd, 2009 by Lori Deschene -
We all know at least one hardcore people pleaser. You know the signs: She sleeps in the rain and gets the flu so her friend’s dog can fit in the tent. She’s 100% republican but lied about her vote because the nation had Obama fever. If a friend calls her stupid, she whips up a batch of cookies, and makes a card that reads, “I’m sorry for disappointing you.” And despite all her over-the-top efforts to be liked by everyone, many people disrespect her. Maybe that’s you, maybe it’s not–but odds are, you can relate at least a little to the desire to be well-liked. Who doesn’t want to feel accepted, respected, and appreciated?
This isn’t a post about overcoming people-pleaser tendencies–you can find that info here. This post won’t teach you how to make friends and avoid alienating people–you can find that info here. If you generally do your best to learn and grow every day but occasionally stress about other people’s opinions then yes, this post is for you. It’s awesome not everyone likes you because: (more…)
Posted on: April 8th, 2009 by Lori Deschene -
I realized yesterday I’ve amassed a vast resource of feel-good links to share on Twitter. In case you don’t catch my every tweet, here they are in all their glory. Smiling is contagious—so share it!
1. Validation
“Validation” is a fable about the magic of free parking (posted here last month).
2. Flutter: The New Twitter
As Twitter-mania reaches new levels, Slate V presents a mockumentary about a company that wants to take microblogging to the next level.
3. Twouble with Twitterers
A young man struggles against the pressure to Twitter his life away.
4. Goodbye to the Normals
A hilarious video of a young boy leaving home for America.
5. Video for the song Art
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Posted on: April 6th, 2009 by Lori Deschene -
One of my favorite bloggers, Jay Frawley, recently published a post about the law of attraction that inspired an interesting conversation in the comments. In case this concept is new to you, the law of attraction outlines a four-pronged approach to creating the life you desire:
- Know exactly what you want.
- Ask the universe for it.
- Feel and behave as if the object of your desire is on its way, and know—not just hope—its coming.
- Be open to receiving it and let go of (the attachment to) the outcome.
The basic idea is that our thoughts alone are powerful enough to either attract or repel abundance, depending on whether we focus on our desires or our beliefs about scarcity.
In Jay’s post, he wrote:
“The reason why 2% of the world hold 90% of the money in this world is because 98% of the people have 2% of the imagination. The poor stay poor because all they see is poverty all around them and they do not use the power of their minds to imagine anything else.”
Another one of my favorite bloggers, Duff McDuffee of Precision Change, responded with this: (more…)
Posted on: March 19th, 2009 by Lori Deschene -
Recently I asked the Twitterverse if anyone had a difficult situation and wanted help seeing the bright side. This is something I would like to do regularly, so please contact me if you have a story to share.
Hey Lori!
I’m in my first year at the University of Toronto. I chose to go into film since I am very passionate about it and I truly felt like it was my calling. Though I am still very interested in it, my failing grades are making me question it all. I put so much effort into all my assignments and papers with either mediocre or close to failing grades. I truly felt as if I could make a turn-around during exams but my computer broke! All the movies we had been studying as well as all my lecture notes and papers were on my laptop and I don’t have the money to get it repaired. I went to U of T because I love the big city and despite none of my friends going, I chose to go and it has thus far been a terrible experience. I have made no friends while the rest of my high school friends have moved on making new friends. I feel totally depressed. So that’s my situation. But I know that I want to stay in University and continue going to U of T but it’s way more difficult than I expected. I will appreciate any advice or helpful words.
—@mariakhandy
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