Posts Tagged ‘success’

On Seizing and Losing a Dream

Posted on: November 25th, 2009 by Lori Deschene - 11 Comments

lonely-girlby Lori Deschene

It felt meaningful to me because I’d been there.

Junior high was difficult for me. At that point in time, I didn’t like myself and I was desperate to be accepted. In elementary school I was chubby; I wore a back brace for scoliosis; and I had braces and headgear for my crooked teeth and overbite.

Perhaps I grew crooked because there wasn’t a ton of sunlight in my pretty older sister’s shadow. Less poignant but likely more accurate, I was a kid with insecurities, like so many other kids across the world.

Whatever the case may be, I struggled, and was teased a lot, and hurt a lot, for a lot longer than necessary.

When Six78th Magazine–a new ‘tween publication with national distribution–advertised for writers in 2006, I felt I’d found my calling. (more…)

Inspiring Video: Find Your Inner Entrepreneur and Change the World

Posted on: May 27th, 2009 by Lori Deschene - 12 Comments

If you’re working on your own idea–creating a future where your work is your own vision–you may find this video motivational. I did. And I’m going to watch it any time I feel frustrated with the obstacles I face.

10 Reasons It’s Awesome People Don’t Like You

Posted on: April 22nd, 2009 by Lori Deschene - 54 Comments

smileWe all know at least one hardcore people pleaser. You know the signs: She sleeps in the rain and gets the flu so her friend’s dog can fit in the tent. She’s 100% republican but lied about her vote because the nation had Obama fever. If a friend calls her stupid, she whips up a batch of cookies, and makes a card that reads, “I’m sorry for disappointing you.” And despite all her over-the-top efforts to be liked by everyone, many people disrespect her. Maybe that’s you, maybe it’s not–but odds are, you can relate at least a little to the desire to be well-liked. Who doesn’t want to feel accepted, respected, and appreciated?

This isn’t a post about overcoming people-pleaser tendencies–you can find that info here. This post won’t teach you how to make friends and avoid alienating people–you can find that info here. If you generally do your best to learn and grow every day but occasionally stress about other people’s opinions then yes, this post is for you. It’s awesome not everyone likes you because: (more…)

10 Reasons It’s Awesome the Economy Sucks

Posted on: February 22nd, 2009 by Lori Deschene - 66 Comments

OK, I don’t really think it’s awesome that the economy sucks. I’d prefer all my friends and I have jobs—or even better, an ever-growing money tree. But that’s just not reality. Instead we’re faced with two choices: a.) Worry, complain, and go prematurely grey or b.) See reality from a different angle and benefit from this experience. Not sure how to change your perception? Allow me to offer some suggestions.

It’s awesome the economy sucks because:

10. You’ll become more resourceful. I’ve always preferred a barter system to the actual exchange of money (mostly because I like to roll around in dollar bills and I can’t do that if I give them all away.) Here’s an example: the day I lost my job, I arranged to do laundry at my yoga studio in exchange for free classes. You got skills—use them. You never know where you could save a little cash.

9. You can redefine success. Most people file this type of thinking right next to, “My mom thinks I’m special” and “Money can’t buy love.” But really, if you lose your job or take a pay cut, count all your other successes. You have friends and family who love you. You’re awesome at poker. You make a mean bratwurst—whatever! Anything you do well other than earn and buy stuff, appreciate that right now.

8. You have an opportunity to minimize. Buying, having, and maintaining a wide selection of stuff consumes a lot of energy. A bad economy is the perfect opportunity to rethink what you really need. (more…)